When you read the title above which one would you rather be a‘ workaholic’ or a perfectionist? I would say most would prefer to be perfectionist there is something quite nice about the word.“ Perfection” whereas ‘Workaholic’ has got so many negative connotations. This article may change your mind!
Think about it, who is the person being a hero, they are probably really proud to explain hope long they stayed at work being so so busy. It for them shows their commitment their dedication to the company or task, but what’s really going on inside that person?
The term workaholism was coined in 1971 by minister and psychologist Wayne Oates, who described workaholism as
“the compulsion or the uncontrollable need to work incessantly”
Physical signs of workaholism (is that a real word) may include headaches, fatigue, indigestion, chest pain, shortness of breath, nervous tics or dizziness. Behavioural signs may include temper outbursts, restlessness, insomnia, difficulty relaxing, irritability, impatience, forgetfulness, difficulty concentrating, boredom and mood swings from euphoria to depression
Do you know anybody like that?
A workaholic is driven to put in long hours by internal needs, typically a desire to escape intimacy and social relationships.
Professor Bryan E. Robinson in his paper , A Typology of Workaholics With Implications for Counsellors says workaholics often come from dysfunctional homes and have learned that putting in crushing hours helps calm their anxiety about other aspects of life. But like heavy drinking or overeating, workaholism only masks the underlying problem while creating other difficulties.
Prof Robinson says. “A workaholic will spend unnecessary time on a project, often going over it again and again before passing it on.”
Despite all the negative evidence from above I feel perfectionism is the one that is the most vicious in its attack against the person.
It robs their victims of the feeling of victory, it steals the good achievements away from them while serving to drive them unhappily into a unfulfilling life.
Imagine creating something good or achieving your goal only to be told “That’s simply not good enough you must try harder in fact try again’
Who is that person saying that they are not good enough, how dare they make people feel so hopeless at what they do!
In fact it’s not an external voice it’s a perfectionist inner voice an inner critic that just wont go away
Perfectionism may say its that mindset that drives them. This is not true perfectionist thoughts pretend to be motivating. They claim that they will be driven to do and be better. But it’s actually the opposite.
It turns people into slaves of success—but keeps them focused on failure, dooming them to a lifetime of doubt and depression. It also ends up undermining achievements and takes away that feeling of success.
The truth a perfectionist brain will never ever let them be proud of what they have achieved
Perfectionism reduces playfulness and the assimilation of knowledge; if you’re always focused on your own performance and on defending yourself, you can’t focus on learning a task. Self-reflection is overwhelming and worrying.
It lowers the ability to take risks, we all know that some things like a new idea or different way to find new clients has risks.
Perfectionism reduces creativity and innovation its the opposite of whats needed to help everyone perform at their best.
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